I found some very helpful One-liners the other day, that can’t go unseen, so here they are for you. They’re from Vicki Hoefle and when you get a chance, I’m sure you’d love to check out her blog at Vickihoefle.com. I love having it so clearly laid out for me of things I can say to my kids or things I shouldn’t say. Of course, it’s for us parents to be spirit led and choose when to use each one, or ask ourselves: Which one would be the most appropriate for the time? Which will have the best effects? Etc.
Hope you have a great day, filling your homes with a little more encouragement during the rest of the summer vacations.
“Sometimes, as parents, we find ourselves in situations we don’t necessarily want to be in.
For example, let’s say we’re happily grocery shopping (all things hunky dory) and suddenly a power struggle at the checkout ensues.
We’ve all been here and we’d all agree this is not a fun place to spend any amount of time. When moments like this happen, it’s helpful to have a plan to keep things moving in the direction we want: toward a good relationship with our child and away from power struggles without cajoling, bribing, nagging, caving, lecturing and so forth.
The next time you feel a tug toward the rabbit hole, pull out one of these one liners and keep it moving!
Keep it Moving: Encouraging One Liners for Parents #1-10
1. Do you have your wallet? (Instead of: No, I’m not buying you that.)
2. Now or later? (Instead of: Right now because I say so).
3. Try it, let me know how it goes. (Instead of: No, not a great idea.)
4. So that didn’t work- what will you try next time? (Instead of: You did it wrong.)
5. Would you be willing to ________?(Instead of: Do this or do that now.)
6. If no, well, what would you be willing to do? (Instead of: you have to!)
7. What can I do to help? (Instead of: what’s the matter over there?)
8. Yes, show me. (Instead of: I don’t think you can handle it.)
9. Yes as soon as (you clean your room) (Instead of: NO, you have to clean your room.)
10. Would you join me? (Instead of: We’re going to do this right now.)